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So kind of you to stop by....I do enjoy the company.

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

I'm back from my visit with my friend in TN.  When my daughter and I went up she was in rough shape.  What a change!  When I went this time she was no longer looking like she wouldn't last a month.  Her color was back, she was up and around, even though she had a nasal cannula for oxygen (the tubing for which is EXTRA long so she can get almost everywhere in the house).  The reason for the change, her husband was no longer in the house.  You see, her husband no longer has any memory.  He can't remember, literally, from one minute to the next.  My friend was getting totally worn out trying to keep tabs on what he was up to every minute.  He would try to sneak out to the garage and get in the car and leave.  His daughter would have to go after him and take the keys away that he somehow found.  Luckily they were able to find a good assisted living place for him and he is very happy there.  He has moments (literally) of lucidity but not too often.  Anyway, with the stress gone, my friend has rallied....at least for a while.  My visit was, therefore, a restful one as usual.  We enjoyed one another's company, didn't make any plans to do anything, watched a couple of movies I took with me (The Lone Ranger is a hoot).  We sat out on the lanai and watched the birds while enjoying breakfast.  It was peaceful.  I plan to go back in October with the hope that she is as strong then as she is now.  She is one amazing woman.

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

I'll be traveling to TN tomorrow to see my friend who doesn't have much time left.  By going I hope to give her daughter some respite.  It's going to be a sad trip but I believe it's important.  I don't know why she has held on this long.  This pending death has been a long, painful journey for her.  She who wanted to outlive her husband because he needed looking after.  Because he is now in a home she no longer has to worry about him, just herself.  Her daughter is there to care for her and her sister lives just down the hill. I don't know if I could hang in there as long as she has or undergone all the treatments she did.  No matter....I will just be there to let her know I love her as my sister.

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Maybe not

I'm back from two road trips with my daughter.  The first was to Illinois.  We went because the band my daughter is in was performing.  We set up a vending space hoping to at least make the entry and vending fees.  The weather did not cooperate.  It was either hotter than hell or raining cats and dogs.  The heat affected me partly because of medication I take.  I got sick.  Nothing like wondering which way to turn in a porta-potty.  I quit taking the meds and recovered.  The band performed beautifully.  We did not make our fees and travelling expenses.  So much for that trip.
The second was to Ohio.  Her band did not perform there.  The temps were in the mid to upper 90's and we had one day of rain.  It was HOT.  Putting up and taking down 10x20 canopies in the heat takes a toll.  I did not take my meds and survived without getting sick.  This time we did make our expenses plus some extra.  I don't know that I want to do it again.  As I told my daughter...I'm getting too old for this s--t.

Friday, June 6, 2014

Shunned

My daughter's boyfriend was arrested at her house some time ago.  For purposes of this writing why doesn't really matter.  No, he isn't a murderer or anything like that.  The reason I write is because now the neighbors shun my daughter and her children.  When she or the children are outside they go or stay inside.  If she waves they don't wave back.  Their children aren't allowed to play with hers.  They have condemned her as if she had committed the same misdemeanor as her boyfriend.  Guilt by association.  What they don't realize is that it doesn't hurt my daughter so much as it does the children.  They don't understand and it hurts them to be excluded.  The children have done no wrong.  I wonder if the neighbors would feel the same if the roles were reversed.
It's also a shame that J's (the boyfriend) family has basically shunned him.  And in shunning him they have shunned my daughter.  His being incarcerated means no money coming into the house to help support his daughter.  His daughter (who is 3) did not commit any crime.  I help out as much as I can but it has been rough for my daughter, who is unable to work.  The so-called social resources have not been any help even though she has applied.  At this point the only thing I can say is that it is a shame that my granddaughter's other grandparents, etc. won't get to know this vivacious beautiful little girl.

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Vacation

I'm going away for a while.  A vacation.  A trip I bought for myself as my 70th birthday present.  Today I fly to LA, then tomorrow to French Polynesia.  I look forward to seeing another part of the world.  And it will be sunny and warm.  I understand the language is French.  Good thing for me as I didn't do too well with the Spanish in January.  I'll see just how much French I remember.
On a sad note.  My friend in Tennessee is not doing well at all.  I'm hoping I don't get an email from my daughter that she has passed while I'm away.  We plan to go say goodbye when I get back.  Damn cancer!  Her daughter says she doesn't know how long it will be.  Unfortunately the husband, who has no short term memory whatsoever, is in good health so a decision is going to have to be made on what to do about him.  I truly believe that it won't be long before he just gives up since he won't know what to do without his wife.  They've been together for almost 55 years.  When she is gone I will miss her a lot.  She was a good friend and a good shoulder to cry on.


I'll be back in a while.  Since everyone has told me to have a good time...I will.  Y'all take care, stay out of tornados, stay healthy and remember:  not all who wander are lost.

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Quiet

Took my sister to the airport yesterday.  Her visit was short but it was sweet.  We don't see or talk to each other often.  It's just the way our family is.  Guess it's going to be my turn to visit her out in MO.  We had a good time catching up on each other's news.  Daughter came up on my birthday and all three of us went to quilt guild then we had dinner together.  All in all a great day.  Now it's back to normalcy, if there is such a thing.  Going to get a hearing test today.  Daughter is happy about that.  At my age it's a good idea.  And I do have problems now and then catching conversation.  Of course the constant hissing in my ears doesn't help.  So if I have to wear a hearing aid, so what?  My new TV got hooked up with the DVD player, etc. when my son came up on Sunday.  My sister hadn't seen him in many years so it was a treat for her.  And him.
I'll be going to my son's place on Sunday.  I haven't been to the new place yet and am looking forward to it.
Guess I'd better get a move on.  Going to walk my mile, etc.  Y'all have a gracious day and remember:  Accept what is; let go of what was; have faith in what will be.

Monday, April 14, 2014

My sister is here for a visit.  She'll only be here for a couple of days but that's better than none!  It's great.  I look forward to the time we'll be spending together.  But wouldn't you know it's going to rain?  Of course.  My son came up yesterday afternoon to visit and finish hooking up my new equipment (hooray).  We all had dinner and good conversation.  An early night with good sleep and we're ready to go.  Y'all have a pleasant day and remember:  all who wander are not lost.