My daughter's boyfriend was arrested at her house some time ago. For purposes of this writing why doesn't really matter. No, he isn't a murderer or anything like that. The reason I write is because now the neighbors shun my daughter and her children. When she or the children are outside they go or stay inside. If she waves they don't wave back. Their children aren't allowed to play with hers. They have condemned her as if she had committed the same misdemeanor as her boyfriend. Guilt by association. What they don't realize is that it doesn't hurt my daughter so much as it does the children. They don't understand and it hurts them to be excluded. The children have done no wrong. I wonder if the neighbors would feel the same if the roles were reversed.
It's also a shame that J's (the boyfriend) family has basically shunned him. And in shunning him they have shunned my daughter. His being incarcerated means no money coming into the house to help support his daughter. His daughter (who is 3) did not commit any crime. I help out as much as I can but it has been rough for my daughter, who is unable to work. The so-called social resources have not been any help even though she has applied. At this point the only thing I can say is that it is a shame that my granddaughter's other grandparents, etc. won't get to know this vivacious beautiful little girl.